“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn
When I first heard this quote, it really got me thinking about the company I was keeping. Who was I spending the most time with? What kind of an impact were they having on me?
If we are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with, our success could very well depend on the people closest to us.
But how do those 5 people influence our success? And how do we make sure they’re influencing us in a positive way?
Find out in the video below:
What Jim Rohn said really got me thinking; the 5 people that are closest to you can impact you in a lot of different ways.
Their actions, mindset, and words can all rub off on you and change your perspective both in life and business.
They can impact the way you see yourself – your self-esteem and confidence. When you spend time with people who know their worth and what they’re capable of, it’s contagious!
They can also affect your decision-making. Successful people make fast, solid decisions and don’t second-guess themselves. On the other hand, some people will constantly be worried about whether or not they made the right decision and doubt themselves.
Each person around you can impact you in unique ways, so it’s incredibly important to pay attention to how they influence you.
What impacts you, impacts your lifestyle, which impacts your income.
And each day, you have the opportunity to choose what kind of impact they have on you.
Try making a mental list of the type of people you want to be around. For myself, it was important to be with people who were big thinkers. People who wanted beyond-mediocre, who were engaged and really searching for the best ways to do things.
You see, I went from being with people who had small incomes and small minds, to being with millionaires and billionaires who truly understood the difference they could make in the world.
But in order to change the people around me, I had to change myself first.
Those millionaires have already gone through that transformation. They’ve already put the work in, and now they want to spend time with people like themselves. People who better them and help them continue to grow.
If you want to be with people who stretch you and push you to be better, there are a few things you should keep in mind:
Focus on being authentic – don’t try to be someone that you’re not.
When working on personal development, it can be a long process in some cases. We can’t change overnight. But by being authentic and transparent with the people around you, you’ll be able to build relationships and trust. They’ll understand where you’re coming from and know that you’re trying to grow and learn.
When you can, be valuable to them.
Even millionaires need help at times. Sometimes they need someone to be honest with them, to give them a new perspective, or sometimes it’s to commiserate.
I remember my mentor Paul J. Meyer once talked to me about how he was really hurt by someone’s actions, and I was willing to listen. I was willing to commiserate and let him know that he wasn’t alone.
When someone gives you advice, take that advice seriously.
This doesn’t mean that you have to do things blindly, but take their advice and really give it a shot. Try out what they suggest, and if it doesn’t work for you, go back to them and discuss it.
This may seem daunting, but people who value each other have conversations. They work together, support each other and value each other’s advice and opinions. They don’t just say, “Okay, maybe that worked for you but it won’t work for me.”
Engage with that person on an equal level and try to problem-solve if it doesn’t work. At some point, you’ll find yourself being respected by, involved with, and nourished by the 5 people who will make you a better person as a result.
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